one thing being openly and loudly queer around everyone I'm not related to for ten years now has taught me is that there are an absolute shitload of closeted bi cis dudes

I can't tell you how many times I've been told, "I'm bi (but it's a secret)" or "I'm bi (but my wife doesn't know)"

let cis men be bi imo

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@juliana as a semi-closeted cis bi man, let me tell you, we as a society are not ready for this conversation. it involves talking about cis women's wild homophobia against bi men. every bi man knows this: 50-80% of women (bi incl) will never date you if they know you're bi. your wife will very likely leave you if she knew. me i was blessed with a wonderfully accepting bi wife and for that i thank the One 🙌🏼 but many did not and so for them, the closet is the safest place 😔

@nebuchi @juliana it’s weirdly true but- let me just say that being in a closet in a relationship with someone who would leave you if they knew is *not* a safe place to be. if it reduces the dating pool, it reduces it to only people worth having a relationship with. 80% bullet dodge speed run.

@bri_seven @juliana i agree. i wrote that i'm bi at the dating app and that's how i found her 💚 but i really can't say nothing to bi men who choose differently. it's not an easy choice to make when you are very much in love with someone and fear that they might leave you.

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